This summer I surprisingly received a lot of good advice from my internship supervisor but here were the two thoughts I liked the most. Now these ideas came from one of the funniest, but most respectable people I have ever met.
1. Don't make wishes, make goals. He said that there is not point in wishing for something, because wishing doesn't actually make anything a reality. Wishing is removed from reality. Wishing is putting your life into someone else's hands. Making goals is making steps to actually achieving something. So, instead of saying, I wish I was this, or I wish I could do that, or maybe one day...make those wishes goals, with deadlines and start obtaining what was once wishes. Wishing is different from dreaming. Dreaming I believe is finding out what you truly want in life. Dreaming doesn't necessarily point to any future or hurt you as much as wishing does. I think wishing hurts the most because we are helpless and need to rely on others. The best way to achieve something is to do it yourself. Yes, you can get help along the way, but placing your whole present and future in someone else's hands isn't really fulfilling your goals, it may just be fulfilling theirs. So, next time, instead of saying, I wish I was better at this...make yourself better by going out and doing it. (like Nike says, "Just Do It.")
2. Pain is good. Pain is good because it reminds us that we are alive. We go through our mundane lives and sometimes we forget that we are sensitive, that we can feel, and that we are human. Pain doesn't necessarily have to be excruciating, uncomfortable pain, but some pain is good. Pain can mean that we are just breaking down to build up to be something better. For example, when we lift weights, we are tearing apart our muscles, and the next day you are sore because your body is attempting to rebuild what you tore apart. Yes, this can be painful, but then you can remember that when the body repairs muscle and bone, it builds it to be bigger and stronger than before. I think for him, experiencing pain was almost a good thing, because it gave him this sort of adrenaline to keep going. Pain wasn't something you cried or complained about, but something you accepted and acknowledged. Not saying we should all be masochists or inflict pain on ourselves, but the concept and reality of pain is a good thing. Think of the people who feel no pain. They may feel no restrictions and we may think this is a good thing, almost superhero like, but not feeling pain doesn't stop you from getting hurt. You are still physically hurt, just not feeling it emotionally. Feeling pain reminds us that our mind and body are connected and that we are connected to each other and our surroundings.