Saturday, June 15, 2013

Random advice #1: from a taxi driver

Some of the best advice I ever got was from this middle aged eastern European taxi driver who drove me to the airport at the end of my freshman year of college. At first he was kind of quiet and awkward but then just started talking, so I let him even though his car smelled weird and I kind of didn’t want to talk to him.

He told me that when you’re a  parent you just want to know that you did a good job raising your kids and you want them to listen to you and believe that their insight is good and right. He told me to listen to my parents and if they tell me how to do something or how to live my life I should tell them, "yes, you are right." Because they are right. Based on their experience and their beliefs, they are right. They are not lying to you. They honestly want the best for you. Plus that gives them the confidence that you care about what they are saying and how they are raising you.
BUT. Plot twist. Just because they tell you something, does not mean you actually have to do it. He didn’t mean to purposely defy your parents wishes aka drop out of school and become a thug. But you have the right to make your own decisions. You should listen to your parents and take into account their experiences and their knowledge. But ultimately your life is up to you. They raised you and hopefully you don’t think that killing babies is the right thing to do, but if you honestly think that, then all the power to you (actually you should probably get some help). He meant that only we can live our lives and sometimes we have to make the same mistakes others before us did in order to learn. And that's probably what our parents are trying to prevent. But that also means that they made these mistakes too, but they love us enough that they don’t want us to get hurt like they did. So listen to your parents, because they are older and wiser than us. But don’t let them control your life. Don’t let them tell you who you are or what to make of yourself. That is up to you. Hopefully you are a good person and give them the fulfillment that they have raised a good person because that’s all they have when they grow older. They want to know that they created a person who was meaningful in this world. They want to brag to their friends that their son or daughter is happy and successful. So, do it for yourself but also do it for your parents.

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